Divorce is stressful. In fact, according to the Social Readjustment Rating Scale (SRRS), it is the second most stressful life event, with only ‘death of a spouse/child’ beating it to the No.1 spot. Interestingly, ‘marriage’ sits at No.7!

This said, many couples are choosing to separate, and are finding more fulfilling, happier lives as a result. Yet, there is no doubt that the separation period, the years prior and the adjustment process is challenging. Divorce, especially when children are involved, often comes with a formidable blend of practical, financial and emotional issues, which has it ranking so high in the aforementioned scale.

It is during this time that people reach for simple support which can be incorporated in daily living to make life more manageable and help them through separation. One of the very best ways to do this is with mantras. Best of all, they are completely free and take up very little of your time.

MANTRAS TO HELP YOU THROUGH DIVORCE

The word mantra comes from Hinduism and Buddhism and means ‘a statements or slogan repeated frequently’. Mantras are used aid concentration in meditation and yoga, but work just as well as a standalone tool which even the busiest person can find time for. Another way to think of a mantra is as a daily reminder to shift your mindset allowing you to focus on the good parts of life and the journey you are on.

HOW TO USE MANTRAS

Mantras can be recited mentally throughout the day, but are particularly helpful when you need to distract yourself from a stressful or difficult situation. A mantra may be a couple of words or a sentence, but when repeated several times will take only 1-2 minutes. Repeating a mantra before getting out of bed in the morning can make a difference to your day. Repeating them in the evening will help you feel calm and grounded after the day’s events. Mantras create positive thoughts, which in-turn, create a positive energy. The more often you recite your personal mantra, the more effective it will be at helping you through your divorce.

Of course, life is busy and you may worry that you’ll forget to recite your mantras. To prevent this happening, write your mantra on some sticky notes and place them strategically to prompt you i.e. the bathroom mirror, the fridge door and/or the steering wheel of your car. Once you know your mantras, you can swap to simple stickers in these places as a gentle reminder. When you are in a routine with your mantras, you won’t need reminding, you will use them naturally.

Reciting mantras as part of your everyday life can also be incorporated with tapping. Tapping is combination of Ancient Chinese Acupressure and Modern Psychology. It consists of tapping with your fingertips on specific meridian points whilst saying your mantra. Tapping can be done almost anywhere. Think of it as a way to boost the power of your mantras.

CHOOSING A MANTRA

Mantras are very personal. They can be whatever words you choose to use. Ideally, wording that resonates with your life at this particular time will help you through your separation. You can have different mantras for different times of the day. Use your intuition to choose a mantra that works for you. Something empowering and encouraging for the morning and throughout the day, then perhaps something peaceful and rewarding for the evening. A mantra should be easy to remember, comfortable to say and relevant to your time and place in the world at that moment. 

MANTRAS TO HELP YOU THROUGH YOUR SEPARATION

If using mantras is new to you, you may feel a little lost with where to start. For this reason, we have compiled a list of mantras which will help you go through your divorce. Remember, these are not set in stone. You can choose one and change it slightly. Or blend two together. As long as your mantra is right for you, then it is perfect.

Mantras for the morning

  • Today I will choose happiness
  • I’ve got this
  • Today I will do something that my future self will thank me for
  • Whatever challenges come my way I will be calm and at peace
  • I forgive myself for yesterday’s mistakes

Mantras to help with stress 

  • I have control over how I feel and I choose to feel at peace
  • This too shall pass
  • Peace is within my reach
  • I will stay calm and carry on
  • Let it go

Mantras to help dealing with your ex-partner

  • I will not give my ex free rent in my head
  • Act, don’t react
  • What my ex thinks of me is none of my business
  • Every living thing has the right to be free
  • I will avoid putting blame on my ex, we both have faults

Mantras to help you with parenting

  • I am a good parent and I love my children
  • I will not feel guilty, I am doing my best
  • Every part of childhood is a phase
  • I am doing this because I love my children
  • My children will understand one day

Mantras to deal with loneliness

  • Divorce is not the end of the road
  • I’m fully capable of being alone right now and I’m ok with it
  • I may be alone today, but I won’t be alone forever
  • Every single person on the planet feels lonely sometimes
  • Trust the process

Mantras to ease money worries 

  • I deserve abundance of all kinds in my life
  • I release all resistance to attracting money
  • I have a positive relationship with money and know how to spend it wisely
  • I give myself permission to prosper and grow
  • I can look at my finances without fear

Mantras to heal your sadness

  • Time heals pain, I will be out of this soon
  • Life does not have to be perfect to be wonderful
  • I give myself permission to let go of what no longer serves me
  • Happiness is always a choice
  • There is always something to be thankful for

Mantras to give you strength

  • I choose this life
  • I am confident and strong and improving my life every day
  • It’s ok to feel lost at times, this is only a temporary solution
  • I am a work in progress and am constantly improving
  • I have an opportunity to create the life I want

Mantras for positivity

  • Head up, open heart to better days ahead
  • I am my own superhero
  • I have the power to create change
  • I have the courage to keep going
  • Positive mind, positive vibes, positive life

Mantras for the evening

  • I will wake up to the good in my life
  • My mind is calm and my body is relaxed
  • Around me and within me I find stillness
  • I am grateful for this time to rest
  • I breathe in peace and exhale stress
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Posted by Belinda Eldridge B.Com. LLB CA